Friday, July 09, 2010
LR Fuckup: Emily
So I met Emily on the train ride back to westchester. Amazing conversation, everything flowed smoothly, until I suggested that I stay in Southampton the next day and that I might be busy. Whatever trucked through
Tuesday I ask her if she wants to do city. She says yes enthusiastically and we meet up at Penn and I take her to Buffalo Exchange and Union square. WE pop open a bottle of Tequila and make out for a bit. Go off to EV buffalo, wind back to forever 21 and then grab dinner at whole foods. This whole time she needed to see her english friend so we run off to the outback steakhouse on whatever street. Get back to Penn station just in the knick of time and we exchange an amazing makeout and she takes off
Thursday I text her telling her I want to see her. Make the LIRR train out and make it into Long Island at 8:30. Her mood is WAY different but I put up with it when I really shouldnt have. Apparently her ex ran into her and told her over text to "not talk to him because he's on a date" Of course this stirred up so much controversy in her own head and I tried to console her through it which was just the wrong place to be throughout the whole interaction. I'm not 100% sure when is a good time to put up with that kind of stuff.
In any case, what I really should have done was this: straight from the walkj to the CVS I felt things were wrong. I should have told her something to the effect of "Listen Emily, I had a really good time with you on Tuesday and I came all the way up here from westchester for the past 4 hours to come see you. If today is no good then I'll just take the next train back because I don't really want to waste my time."
A page straight out of braddocks playbook on boundaries and takeaways. I think that would have set a better tone for the interaction but I was just so thrown off by the fact that she had ABSOLUTELY no control over her emotions.
I think I need to always have this speech ready in my back pocket. At the time I was so concerend with getting laid I didn't even consider throwing it all away, which is something I should do more.
I left this morning with a rose and a note to keep it on a slightly romantic high note. Who knows if we'll ever see each other again.
I've had four seperate instances where I opened and escalated all the way to a makeout, within the past two weeks. I would say this is a lot of progress and I am starting to realize what problems I may run into later when I start dating again in AZ.
So I think if everything is summed up, be able to escalate to a kiss. Afterwards, be able to throw it all away. This = Lay
Tuesday I ask her if she wants to do city. She says yes enthusiastically and we meet up at Penn and I take her to Buffalo Exchange and Union square. WE pop open a bottle of Tequila and make out for a bit. Go off to EV buffalo, wind back to forever 21 and then grab dinner at whole foods. This whole time she needed to see her english friend so we run off to the outback steakhouse on whatever street. Get back to Penn station just in the knick of time and we exchange an amazing makeout and she takes off
Thursday I text her telling her I want to see her. Make the LIRR train out and make it into Long Island at 8:30. Her mood is WAY different but I put up with it when I really shouldnt have. Apparently her ex ran into her and told her over text to "not talk to him because he's on a date" Of course this stirred up so much controversy in her own head and I tried to console her through it which was just the wrong place to be throughout the whole interaction. I'm not 100% sure when is a good time to put up with that kind of stuff.
In any case, what I really should have done was this: straight from the walkj to the CVS I felt things were wrong. I should have told her something to the effect of "Listen Emily, I had a really good time with you on Tuesday and I came all the way up here from westchester for the past 4 hours to come see you. If today is no good then I'll just take the next train back because I don't really want to waste my time."
A page straight out of braddocks playbook on boundaries and takeaways. I think that would have set a better tone for the interaction but I was just so thrown off by the fact that she had ABSOLUTELY no control over her emotions.
I think I need to always have this speech ready in my back pocket. At the time I was so concerend with getting laid I didn't even consider throwing it all away, which is something I should do more.
I left this morning with a rose and a note to keep it on a slightly romantic high note. Who knows if we'll ever see each other again.
I've had four seperate instances where I opened and escalated all the way to a makeout, within the past two weeks. I would say this is a lot of progress and I am starting to realize what problems I may run into later when I start dating again in AZ.
So I think if everything is summed up, be able to escalate to a kiss. Afterwards, be able to throw it all away. This = Lay
# posted by Prince Ali @ 11:07 AM 
